I am so determined to not have my sons raised as witnesses that it's crossed my mind to have something in writing incase something happened to me and my husband at the same time about them not being raised as witnesses, because I'm sure my parents would get them and sure enough they would start dragging them to meetings and not have holidays and stuff. So that's what I'm thinking about doing, actually having it put in writing, whether or not it would hold up I don't know. I love my parents and they treated me and my brother very well, but I have chosen differently for my sons.
This is what we've done. I have a letter lodged with my will which states that whilst my chldren could be taken to the kingdom hall, if they ever decide they no longer want to attend, this should be respected. I hve also requested that they not be baptised before the age of 18 and if they do get baptised at all, they must read Crisis of Conscience and Combatting Cult Mind Control first.
Maybe it wouldn't be respected but I have no non-JW family so it's the best I can do.